When I started following the research on child well-being about two decades ago, the focus was almost always girls problems—their low self-esteem, lax ambitions, eating disorders, and, most alarming, high rates of teen pregnancy. Now, though, with teen births down more than 50 percent from their 1991 peak and girls dominating classrooms and graduation ceremonies, boys and men are increasingly the ones under examination. Their high school grades and college attendance rates have remained stalled for decades. Among poor and working-class boys, the chances of climbing out of the low-end labor market—and of becoming reliable husbands and fathers—are looking worse and worse.
Economists have scratched their heads. The greatest, most astonishing fact that I am aware of in social science right now is that women have been able to hear the labor market screaming out You need more education and have been able to respond to that, and men have not, MITs Michael Greenstone told the New York Times. If boys were as rational as their sisters, he implied, they would be staying in school, getting degrees, and going on to buff their Florsheim shoes on weekdays at 7:30 AM. Instead, the rational sex, the proto-homo economicus, is shrugging off school and resigning itself to a life of shelf stocking. Why would that be?
This spring, another MIT economist, David Autor, and coauthor Melanie Wasserman, proposed an answer. The reason for boys dismal school performance, they argued, was the growing number of fatherless homes. Boys and young men werent behaving rationally, the theory suggested, because their family background left them without the necessary attitudes and skills to adapt to changing social and economic conditions. The paper generated a brief buzz but then vanished. Thats too bad, for the claim that family breakdown has had an especially harsh impact on boys, and therefore men, has considerable psychological and biological research behind it. Anyone interested in the plight of poor and working-class men—and, more broadly, mobility and the American dream—should keep it front and center in public debate.
In fact, signs that the nuclear-family meltdown of the past half-century has been particularly toxic to boys well-being are not new. By the 1970s and eighties, family researchers following the children of the divorce revolution noticed that, while both girls and boys showed distress when their parents split up, they had different ways of showing it. Girls tended to internalize their unhappiness: they became depressed and anxious, and many cut themselves, or got into drugs or alcohol. Boys, on the other hand, externalized or acted out: they became more impulsive, aggressive, and antisocial. Both reactions were worrisome, but boys behavior had the disadvantage of annoying and even frightening classmates, teachers, and neighbors. Boys from broken homes were more likely than their peers to get suspended and arrested. Girls unhappiness also seemed to ease within a year or two after their parents divorce; boys didnt.
Since then, externalizing by boys has been a persistent finding in the literature about the children of single-parent families. In one well-known longitudinal study of children of teen mothers (almost all of them unmarried), University of Pennsylvania sociologist Frank Furstenberg, a dean of family research, found alarmingly high levels of pathology among the males. They had more substance abuse, criminal activity, and prison time than the few boys in the study who had grown up in married-couple families. As adults, the females in the sample were doing much better than the males on every indicator except early parenthood, Furstenberg noted. These gender differences overwhelmed all other factors in accounting for the level of overall success in the next generation.
By the 1990s, as divorce rates eased and the ranks of never-married mothers expanded to include more women in their twenties, researchers were able to exclude the trauma of a parental crack-up and teen motherhood as primary causes of the son/single-mom disadvantage. Even controlling for mothers age and parents marital history, boys in fatherless homes were still getting into more trouble compared with their sisters and male peers with married parents. Autor and Wasserman cite a large study by University of Chicago sociologists Marianne Bertrand and Jessica Pan, showing that, by fifth grade, fatherless boys were more disruptive than peers from two-parent families, and by eighth grade, had a substantially greater likelihood of getting suspended. The gender gap [between boys and girls] in externalizing behavior in fifth grade and suspension in grade eight . . . is smallest in intact families, the authors summarized their findings. All other family structures appear detrimental to boys [my italics].
At the extreme end, externalizing can mean anything from delinquency—stealing, defacing property, joining a gang—to violent assault and murder. Juvenile-justice experts have long known that juvenile facilities and adult jails overflow with sons from broken families; one 1994 U.S. Department of Justice survey found that 57 percent of prison inmates did not grow up with both parents, though precise numbers are hard to come by, since the DOJ doesnt keep regular track of inmates family background. Several studies, using other data sources, have filled in some of the blanks. Boys who grow up poor, were born to a teen mother, or whose parents had little education were all likelier to get in trouble with the law than were their less disadvantaged peers. According to a paper by professors Cynthia Harper and Sara McLanahan, even if you took all those other danger signals into account, adolescents in father-absent households still faced elevated incarceration risks.
Liberals often assume that these kinds of social problems result from our stingy support system for single mothers and their children. Provide more maternity leave, quality day care, and health care, goes the thinking, and a lot of the disadvantages of single-parent homes would vanish. But the link between criminality and fatherlessness holds even in countries with lavish social-welfare systems. A 2006 Finnish study of 2,700 boys, for instance, concluded that living in a non-intact family at age eight predicted a variety of criminal offenses.
Externalizing doesnt have to land boys in juvenile court to hamper their prospects. Several studies have concluded that boys raised in single-parent homes are less likely to go to college than boys with similar achievement levels raised in married-couple families; girls show no such gap. Autor quotes an American Sociological Review paper that found boys with absent fathers less likely to complete a college degree than girls from the same kinds of background, even when their high school performance was equal to the girls. Another study, by Brian Jacob of Harvards Kennedy School of Government, titled Where the Boys Arent, discovered a similar difference in college attendance among single parents daughters and sons. A related fact: women currently earn 67 percent of all bachelors degrees awarded to African-Americans, the demographic group with the highest rates of single parenthood in the United States and quite possibly the world.
The United States high rates of lone motherhood, as the Europeans term it, help explain the widely lamented malaise of the American dream. When economists assess the probability that a child born to parents in the lowest income quintile will move up to a higher quintile as an adult, America gets very poor marks compared with other Western countries. In fact, numerous studies have confirmed that the U.S. has less upward mobility than just about any developed nation, including England, the homeland of the peerage. Yet, if you look at boys separately from girls, as the Finnish economist Markus Jäntti and his colleagues at the Bonn-based Institute for the Study of Labor did, the story changes markedly. In every country studied, girls are more likely than boys to climb up the income ladder, but in the United States, the disadvantage for sons is substantially greater than in other countries. Almost 75 percent of American daughters escape the lowest quintile—not unlike girls in the comparison countries of the United Kingdom, Denmark, Finland, Norway, and Sweden. Fewer than 60 percent of American sons experience similar success. It could be a simple coincidence that the U.S. has a significantly higher rate of single motherhood than the comparison countries and that 83 percent of American families in the lowest quintile are headed by a single mother. But judging from the research weve just parsed, probably not.
So why do boys in single-mother families have a harder time of it than their sisters? If you were to ask the average person on the street, he would probably give some variation of the role-model theory: boys need fathers because thats who teaches them how to be men. The theory makes intuitive sense. Human beings naturally divide the universe into male and female—its one of the earliest things that children notice about the world around them. Children take early cues about everything from body language to vocal intonations to how to treat the opposite sex from their same-sex parent. In married-couple families, moreover, fathers do tend to spend more time—and presumably do more role-modeling—with their sons than with their daughters. And some evidence exists, though its far from settled, that boys who live with their fathers after divorce are better off than those who stay with their mothers.
As the sole explanation for the boy disadvantage, though, the role-model theory needs modification. If boys simply needed men in their lives to teach them the ways of the gendered world, then uncles, family friends, mentors, teachers, stepfathers, and nonresidential but involved fathers could do the trick. Its not clear that this is the case. Male teachers, anyway, dont seem to make a difference for boys academic success. And stepfathers have an especially mixed record in helping boys, the research shows. For reasons probably both biological and psychological, men tend to be less attentive to stepchildren than to their own kids. Harper and McLanahan, the scholars who found that fatherless boys were more destined to land in prison, divided their study group into boys who lived with stepfathers and those who didnt. The stepfather group was even more at risk of incarceration than the single-mom cohort.
Fathers living apart from their sons, even when they see them regularly, have a similarly ambiguous impact. In 2011, two University of Wisconsin sociologists, Marcia J. Carlson and Katherine A. Magnuson, examined the extensive literature on fathers and nonresidential children and concluded that child support can make a positive difference. They also agreed that a relationship with a nonresidential father can improve a boys chances in life but only under certain, relatively unusual, circumstances. The father not only needs to be warm and supportive of his son; he also has to have a good relationship with the boys mother, a sadly uncommon situation. Engaged nonresidential fathers are actually a net negative for kids when a stepfather is in the picture. Boys in such circumstances tend to exhibit greater delinquency, possibly because stepfathers raise the potential for jealousy and turf conflicts. It seems that two fathers may be worse than one; in fact, they may even be worse than none.
These findings can help us refine the role-model theory. Girls and boys have a better chance at thriving when their own father lives with them and their mother throughout their childhood—and for boys, this is especially the case. (Violent or abusive fathers are, of course, exceptions to the rule.)
To understand why, consider what we know about the basic differences between the sexes. And yes, with all due respect to women astronauts, tech-company CEOs, and army generals, there are a number of settled pink/blue distinctions. Most will come as no surprise to parents or kindergarten teachers, but heres what cognitive and neuroscientists now agree on. On average, boys are more physically active and restless than girls. They have less self-control and are more easily distracted. They take longer to mature. They have a harder time sitting still, paying attention, and following rules, especially in the early years of school. Not surprisingly, then, they are three times as likely as girls to be diagnosed with ADD. They make up 70 percent of K12 suspensions and 67 percent of special-education students. In Lord of the Flies terms, we might say that boys need more civilizing than girls. They require more cues, more reminders, and more punishment to learn to control their aggression and to mind their manners. Boys—not girls—often require remedial education to sit still, to look at the person speaking to them, to finish the task they were working on. These days, experts might put it this way: boys come into the world with less natural human capital than do girls. This doesnt hold true in terms of cognitive ability, which doesnt vary in ways that matter to boys difficulties. Its the soft skills that are the issue. Success in life depends on personality traits that are not well captured by measures of cognition, the Nobel Prize-winning economist James Heckman has concluded. Conscientiousness, perseverance, sociability, and curiosity matter. For at least the first three of these, boys are just naturally slower.
The implications for family life are profound. Lone parents tend to have a tougher time providing the predictability and order that help boys become capable students and workers. Poverty undoubtedly worsens the problem: in general, low-income children have poorer executive function, such as self-control and cognitive flexibility, than do middle-income children, according to a 2011 study by a group of Berkeley neuropsychologists. But poor children in single-parent families still came out worse in the study than kids with poor married parents. This is probably because unmarried parents tend to break up more frequently, go on to new relationships, sometimes serially, and bring stepparents and half- and step-siblings into their childrens lives. Cohabiting unmarried parents are three times as likely to break up before their child reaches his fifth birthday than are married parents. Various studies have shown that each of these transitions leads boys to exhibit more behavior and attention difficulties and to become more aggressive.
Yes, plenty of single mothers provide—or try to provide—the stability that boys need. But it would be naive to imagine that individual parents can wall themselves off from their neighborhood and its peer groups. Single-mother households tend to be located in poor urban areas. Even the most conscientious mother cant always protect a boy, particularly a restless and impulsive one, from a culture in which gangs have replaced fathers, the threat of violence looms, and schools are filled with apathetic or hostile males. A highly publicized recent study by the Equality of Opportunity Project comparing social mobility by region found that areas with high proportions of single-parent families have less mobility—including for kids whose parents are married. The reverse also held, the study discovered: areas with a high proportion of married-couple families improve the lot of all children, including those from single-parent homes. In fact, a communitys dominant family structure was the strongest predictor of mobility—bigger than race or education levels. This research suggests that having plenty of married fathers around creates cultural capital that helps not just, say, the coachs son, but every member of the Little League team.
If the trends of the past 40 years continue—and theres little reason to think that they wont—the percentage of boys growing up with single mothers will keep on growing. No one knows how to stem that tide. But by understanding the way family instability interacts with boys restless natures, educators could experiment with approaches that might improve at least some lives. Educators and psychologists have often described boys as needing clear rules or benefiting from structure. For the most difficult cases, they have recommended military academies or rigorous Outward Bound programs, which offer predictable routines to direct and organize boys energies.
In her seminal The War Against Boys, recently released with a new preface, Christina Hoff Sommers pointed to a number of countries, including Australia, Canada, and England, that have launched school reforms to foster a more structured environment for underperforming boys. Though the reforms arent yet targeting children from single-mother families, they will doubtless catch a disproportionate number of them in their policy net. Some of the recommendations seem commonsensical, but after decades of denial about the differences between the sexes, they require explaining. First: give boys plenty of recess and gym time. Theres a consensus, as noted, that boys have a harder time sitting still for long periods of time and need more chances to move about. Over the past decades, however, because of testing demands, limited space, and, one suspects, fear of the possible legal dangers posed by rambunctious boys, schools have reduced—and, in some cases, completely expunged—recess. In the same spirit, some schools have banned dodgeball, tug-of-war (tug-of-peace, anyone?), tag, and other rough-and-tumble games. Yet its precisely through such activities that boys can learn to manage their energies and aggression in the context of agreed-upon norms. A number of small-scale studies suggest that this is a benefit that comes from roughhousing with a parent, which almost always means fathers. For many boys from single-parent homes, relaxed playtime with fathers is rare or nonexistent. They may need schools to give them opportunities for such rowdy but controlled play.
Equally important is to find ways to improve boys literacy. Boys have always had greater difficulty learning to read than girls—and that holds across all socioeconomic levels and in every country where PISA scholastic tests are given to 15- and 16-year-olds. In an industrial age when decent-paying unskilled jobs were plentiful, lack of literacy wasnt such a grave problem. Nowadays, a boys literacy problems can ruin his life chances, blocking him from studying subjects such as history or science. Kids having trouble reading too often become disengaged from school and drop out. Sommers argues that teachers dont assign enough boy-friendly action narratives and science fiction with heroes, bad guys, rescues, and shoot-ups. A few studies have also suggested that boys are particularly responsive to phonics training, which makes sense, since the approach is highly structured and rule-oriented.
The truth is, we dont know for sure what will help. Theres a tendency when facing learning problems like these to jump to conclusions about our exceedingly complex brains and their response to infinitely complex inputs. Schools and programs are sprouting up to address boys different learning styles. The science remains ambiguous, however, about whether those differences exist, to say nothing of what pedagogical techniques might best address them. The best bet is to follow the advice of social thinker Jim Manzi and start with small, controlled studies that lend themselves to careful evaluation—and keep experimenting. (See What Social Science Does—and Doesnt—Know, Summer 2010.)
Yet what also remains unknown is a possibility impervious to experiment. It just may be that boys growing up where fathers—and men more generally—appear superfluous confront an existential problem: Where do I fit in? Who needs me, anyway? Boys see that men have become extras in the lives of many families and communities, and it cant help but depress their aspirations. Solving that problem will take something much bigger than a good literacy program.